Coaching Tip: Reading for a Purpose is a Coaching Experience

“Every man who knows how to read  has it in his power to magnify himself, to multiply the ways in which he exists, to make his life full, significant and interesting.”-Aldous Huxley

On a daily basis we read while on the job, we read the newspaper, we read  articles to find out what is going on in the world or how to improve our lives.  Books are a wealth of knowledge, but how often do we really take time to read for a purpose other than because we have to.  Reading for a purpose gives us the opportunity to explore and make new discoveries; much like being coached.  If your purpose is to read for enjoyment, you will most  likely plan that time somewhere in your busy schedule.  If reading for knowledge, that takes a bit more concentration. Planning your most effective time will make a difference in your comprehension. Consider that a book has meaning not because of what you read, but because of what is inferred.  “To read without reflecting is like eating without digesting.”-Edmund Burke

Activity:

Choose a book for a purpose

Plan to read at least 15 minutes each day

Take that book wherever you go in case you have to wait in line somewhere.

Try reading the book rather than checking your text messages during this waiting period.

Keep in mind: intention, attention, and retention.

Read books that lead to discovery and give you power;  You will be transported to new worlds that may inspire you to do more things and go more places.

Keep in mind that reading will give you pleasure, information and inspiration.  Get started right away!

 

Email: isabel@uniquepathways.com to discuss this activity and share your inspiration from reading your next book: e-book or otherwise.

 

 

 

Coaching Tip: How to Gain Trust and Motivate Through Conversational Leadership

“Leaders must be close enough to relate to others, but far ahead to motivate them.”-John Maxwell

 

There are many of us in leadership positions and those of us who want to measure up to our leaders’ hopes for pursuing their vision.  Leaders must realize that their employees or organizational members must be pulled along NOT pushed into positions that become drudgery.  Through interpersonal conversations based on:” intimacy, interactivity, inclusion and intentionality”, a process of information exchange can be established creating trust, effective listening, dialogue, and promotion of spirit.

Benefits of conversation using the above mentioned processes: buy in, new ideas, more engagement, desire to promote company or organization’s brand, willingness to “go the extra mile”.

Activity: How do you relate to your people?

  • Emphasize listening to exchange ideas on a personal not authoritative level.
  • Have face to face conversations when possible.
  • Allow for active exchange of ideas for a strategic purpose.
  • Be clear on your agenda.

Use your conversation to align your committees, teams, work groups, etc.

“Communication is the real work of leaders.”-Nitin Nohria (Dean of Harvard Business School)

I recommend: “Leadership is a Conversation” in Harvard Business Review June 2012

Email: isabel@uniquepathways.com to comment on this coaching tip, blogs or to share your experiences as a leader.

 

 

 

 

Coaching Tip: 10 Ways To Resolve Conflicts

“The aim of an argument or discussion should not be victory, but progress.”– Joseph Joubert

We are always encountering opinions like ours and totally different from ours whether in social situations or work situations.  We may hear the same story and just “see” it differently based on our own perceptions culled by our experiences throughout our lifetime.

The following  is a list compiled by The National Liberty Museum in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania. Perhaps the founding fathers adhered to the precepts below.  We can not imagine the discussions and disagreements they endured and the compromises that were made to create our nation.

Activity:

  • Listen more. Talk less. It helps you to understand the other person’s point of view.
  • Ask when you want something. Making demands only makes things worse.
  • Focus on the problem, not the person.  It’s the only way to solve a disagreement.
  • Always deal with the problem at hand.  Never bring up old issues or resentments.
  • Take responsibility for your part in the conflict.  Your view may not be completely right either.
  • Express your feelings without blaming the other person.  Blame never solves anything.
  • Always talk things out.  Never use physical force to express your anger.
  • Choose your words carefully.  Once a word is spoken, it can not be taken back.
  • Look for a solution that is agreeable to both parties.  If one person isn’t satisfied, the problem isn’t solved.
  • Step back and put the problem in perspective.  A problem you have today may not seem so bad tomorrow.

http://fritz11235.hubpages.com/hub/Conflicts-at-the-Philadelphia-Convention (Conflicts for the Founding Fathers)

“Tis done.  We have become a nation.”-Benjamin Franklin

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